Our annual peer aggression survey is in and the results can be found here. Overall, our numbers are better than last year. We are certainly focusing more on building community and looking at the social-emotional well being of all our students. If you have any specific questions about the results, please feel free to leave a comment or email me, and I will get back to you.
Take a few minutes to read this article from today’s NY Times. All of us need to better understand the online world in order to help our students be safe.
It is difficult enough to support one’s child through a siege of schoolyard bullying. But the lawlessness of the Internet, its potential for casual, breathtaking cruelty, and its capacity to cloak a bully’s identity all present slippery new challenges to this transitional generation of analog parents.
Desperate to protect their children, parents are floundering even as they scramble to catch up with the technological sophistication of the next generation.
All our teachers are emphasizing building classroom and school-wide community through their classroom meetings. Although we want all our students to be proficient academically, we also want to make sure our students are “good kids.” Below is a snippet from a grade 5 class on how students prepare themselves for their class meeting.
Although it is very hard to accept for a parent, there are students who make bad choices and bully others. Below is an excerpt I found today from an article in the Richmond, VA newspaper.
Children who are bullies are often quick to blame others and cannot accept responsibility for their own actions. They do not show empathy or compassion for others and often are immature socially. Oddly enough, they are often bullied by someone else. Sometimes bullies come from families where there are older siblings who bully them or the parents have a bullying style for managing behavior, making the child feel it is him that is unacceptable instead of his behavior.
Children who bully others may not be aware that they are being a bully. They may be socially unaware or are mimicking behaviors they see adults around them do. So, the first step is to make them aware that their behavior will not be tolerated and find out where they learned how to be a bully
More often than not, teasing and bullying is done with words. At Lane we are trying hard to deal with any issues that arise concerning teasing and bullying. This doesn’t mean we are perfect. Often adults are not present when teasing or bullying behavior occurs, thus we rely on student accounts to try and get the facts. In the end, Lane staff uses their best adult judgment to bring closure and give whatever consequences are necessary.
We are currently working on a specific rubric that will tell parents and students what the consequences are for very specific hurtful behaviors. This will be sent home when it is completed.